When It Is Perceived As Real, It Is Real

I have been accused of using garlic  (and onion) in everything I cook. While that isn’t quite true, garlic is usually included somewhere in my supper club menu. Unfortunately, there are some people that don’t like garlic. Some even say garlic makes them sick. There is the old saying: It doesn’t matter if something is real or perceived as real. What is perceived is real. When it comes to garlic, that shouldn’t stop you from using garlic.

(Freshly harvested garlic from my niece’s garden in New Rochelle NY)

My aunt, who is German and was married to an Italian, is allergic to garlic. She says it makes her sick. Aunt Margaret Mary is a selective eater. Ironically, my mom, her sister, is as adventurous an eater as you will find at 96 years old.  When it comes to food, it is hard to imagine that two people that grew up together could be more different.

In another irony, my cousin Buddy, is married into an Italian family where the patriarch was allergic to garlic. Mr. Galante  ran a “vending machine and amusement park” business based in Long Island City New York. (I once asked his son if it was true that his father was in the Mafia. He said: “No but a lot of his friends were”.) After he passed away, I asked his wife what it was like cooking for an Italian that was allergic to garlic. She said: it was awful, there were so many things I couldn’t cook.

Food allergies are a serious business. Research tells us that:

  • Researchers estimate that up to 15 million  (5%) Americans have food allergies, including 5.9 million (8% ) children under age 18. That’s 1 in 13 children, or roughly two in every classroom.
  • About 30 percent of children with food allergies are allergic to more than one food.
  • The Centers for Disease Control & Prevention reports that the prevalence of food allergy in children increased by 50 percent between 1997 and 2011.
  • Between 1997 and 2008, the prevalence of peanut or tree nut allergy appears to have more than tripled in U.S. children.
  • More than 170 foods have been reported to cause allergic reactions.
  • Eight major food allergens – milk, egg, peanut, tree nuts, wheat, soy, fish and crustacean shellfish – are responsible for most of the serious food allergy reactions in the United States.
  • Less than 20% of people that think they have a food allergy actually have a food allergy.

Again it is important to remember the old saying: It doesn’t matter if something is real or perceived as real. When it is perceived, it is real.

While there is a lot of garlic in my favorite Italian dishes, Italian food is nothing compared to Korean. The Japanese call Koreans “The garlic eaters”. Sit next to a Korean on a flight to Asia from the US and you will know that the Japanese are right. On my first trip to Korea, our host took us to a Korean BBQ restaurant. The waiter brought out a bowl of raw garlic and our Korean hosts started eating them like Americans eat peanuts. I like garlic, but that is too much for me. That is my perception.

I guess you can say garlic is a polarizing flavor. Some people like it. Some people don’t. Some people think it makes them sick. Koreans smell like they eat a lot of it. With all that said, it still is a great ingredient for tasty supper club dishes.

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A “Go To” Guacamole Recipe

You have to love a good Guacamole. It is nice to be able to whip together a healthy dip that is vegan, dairy free, gluten free that can be prepared in less than 10 minutes. It is always a great starter for a supper club dinner party or quick cocktails by the pool.

(Susan and Mom enjoying guacamole poolside in Westhampton)

The Guacamole development in Westhampton was started by my niece Katie Lawson Hudleston and furthered by my daughter Jennifer Kenny Begun. I don’t know if their development effort was fueled by culinary passion or Corona Light, but the result has become an oft shared and repeated recipe.

Guacamole Recipe

Ingredients

  • 2 avocados 
  • 1 jalapeños (finely diced)
  • 1 lime juiced
  • 2 tbsp cilantro 
  • 2 t kosher salt 
  • 2 tbsp red onion diced
  • 2 cloves garlic chopped with  salt

Instructions

  • Scrape the semi soft avocado meat from the shell into a large bowl and then mash (I prefer to use  a potato masher) into a chunky/smooth texture
  • Add the jalapeño, cilantro, salt, garlic, and onion and stir together to get the desired consistency
  • Serve with taco chips or crudité

“Guac” has become a poolside happy hour staple in Westhampton. Check put the video to get a sense of the vibe.

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A Guide To The Perfect Hostess Gift

You have been invited to a dinner party or a beach house for the weekend and you have to bring something for the hostess. What should we bring? It is never an easy answer. We all have been given and received things we really don’t need or want. There are two gifts with which you can’t go wrong (wine and flowers) and past that there are gifts for the person and the occasion.

A Guide To The Perfect Hostess Gift

Here are a few suggestions that could help:

1. Wine

You can’t go wrong with a nice bottle of wine. Even if the hostess has recently returned from rehab she can always re-gift a good bottle. My favorite gift came from a friend that knows her wine. She wrote a note on the bottle saying that it is one of her husband’s favorites. The bad part is that I am still saving the bottle waiting on the right occasion.

2. Flowers

My daughter has a friend from London. Amy is very proper and always brings flowers tied together with a nice ribbon. Everyone loves flowers and the ribbon cuts the expense.

3. Candy

If you are being invited to an out of town dinner party bringing a box of candy from a good candy store from your home town always works.

4. Cheese Board/Serving Set

You can get a nice cheese board at a gift shop relatively inexpensively that makes a nice gift. We have friend that is the queen of the great hostess gift that once told me the best reaction she has ever received was on a cheese board. For the record, we have at least five.

5. Bees Wax Candles

This falls into the category of “You can always use one”. Candles are a safe gift.

6. Packaging

While packaging is key to all gifts, it is worthy of its own category. A great example comes from my mom. My dad was a college dean. His University bought a college that used to be a catholic college and had a convent on the property. At Christmas dad made my mom buy gifts for the 30 nuns at the convent. She bought them a small nic-nac from Bergdorf Goodman. The packaging made the gift and the nun’s are still praying for my father. Another reason packaging is worthy of its own category is that there are great gift bags and wine bottle sacks that are worthy of re-gifting.

7. Holiday Baskets

Around the holidays there are all kinds of gifts that come into play. Ornaments and candy dishes are just a few examples.

8. Napkins

So you have been invited to a dinner party. It is pretty safe to say that your hostess entertains. She can always use some interesting napkins. Many gift shops even sell napkins with initials on them.

9. Titleist Pro V 1’s

OK golf balls aren’t exactly a hostess gift. But Titleist Pro V 1’s are as good as currency to just about any golfer and they are expensive. The good news is that Titleist and now other manufacturers run promotions every spring where you buy 3 dozen and get a 4th dozen free. The one caveat is that you need to have them personalized so that they can’t be resold with the lower price. I get them personalized with “THANKS” and then give as gifts when I get invited to someone’s club or want to make a dinner party host really happy.

10. Object D’art

A really nice piece of art (some may call them chotskies) makes a great hostess gift. This type of gift is a little risky and can get very expensive. Last year we were in Poland where the local currency is 4 to 1 to the US dollar and we saw some beautiful art that would cost hundreds in the USA, but was under $20. We bought a few pieces, but wish we had bought dozens. The risk falls into the category of “one man’s trash is another man’s treasure”. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so it helps to know your audience.

Earlier I mentioned my friend who is the queen of the hostess gift. A few years ago she moved to a new town. When she hosted her first dinner party she received a wide array of gifts. She told me that now that her new friends know her they just bring wine.

When you are hosting a dinner party people usually ask “What can we bring?” We always say bring a bottle of wine. You will wind up with a wide array. Chances are you will get a few gems and some may even be inscribed. The rest, you can re gift to your sisters.

Of course, the perfect hostess dinner party gift is a great book. Impromptu Friday Nights – Guide to Supper Clubs published by Morgan James Publishing in January and is available through every main channel that sells books.

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