Out Of The Mouths Of Babes

One of the funniest things that ever happened at a Supper Club event goes back to a New Years Eve party we had several years back. Before I go further I have to say two things:

1. Alcohol was involved
2. Names have been changed to protect the guilty

Susan and I hosted a neighborhood New Years Eve party for years. This year in question involved extensive appetizers/drinks, dinner/drinks, game/drinks and dessert/drinks. About a quarter of the way through the evening “Ralph”, who I had probably over-served, announced to party that his new years resolution was to “have more sex in the new year”. His wife who is usually adept at controlling such out bursts was missing in action. It really got out of control when another neighbor who was a psychologist started querying: “So Ralph tell us what you really feel?” As you can guess Ralph was the target for a fair amount of teasing, but the evening went on and a good time (non-sex related) was had by all.

A few days later I was back at work and got a call from Ralph to apologize for his S.E.X. comments at the party. While the whole thing was funny to me, poor Ralph had taken a (deserved) beating from his wife and probably had been forced to give me a call. Later that day my wife and kids met me at McDonalds for lunch. In recalling the highlights of my day I told Susan about Ralph’s call and apology for comments. I was careful to spell out the S.E.X. word in front of the children. My daughter Jennifer who was about 9 quickly leans across the table and carefully turns to protect her brother Brian (6) and whispers “You had S.E.X. at the party?” Susan and I both initially burst into laughter and then almost in harmony ask “How do you know about S.E.X.”. To which Jennifer answered confidently “Oh Lydia (Ralph’s daughter aged 10) has told me all about it”. In the immortal words of Ricky Ricardo on “I love Lucy” we had quite a bit of explaining to do.

One of the keys to a great party is a great appetizer. I love canapés. Try these (Clockwise):

Mini Tacos With Pulled Pork
Gourmet Grilled Cheese
Beef Tenderloin On A Parmesan Crisp
Lobster With A Wasabi Aioli

Do you want to catch up on similar tacky stories? Keep an eye out for my book Impromptu Friday Nights – A Guide to Supper Clubs – from Morgan James Publishing sold anywhere where books are sold.

Arnold Palmer Story

Making your guests at a dinner party feel comfortable is an important goal. While I don’t know if Arnold Palmer, the great golfer, was a Supper Clubber, I do know that we all can take a lesson from his playbook in how to make guests feel welcome and special. Arnold Palmer passed away three years ago and it is truly amazing how many people have Arnold Palmer stories where he had a positive impact making his fans feel special.

In 2002 I went with a group of buddies on a golf trip to Arnold Palmer’s Bay Hill Club and Lodge in Florida. We had played 9 holes on the golf course and there on the range (near the hot dog stand) was Mr. Palmer, practicing for one of his last Masters tournament. My friends headed right over to meet him, even as I protested that we should not disturb him while practicing.

Arnie was as gracious as can be and quickly asked what the guys thought of the course. One guy responded that the course was great, but the greens were a little rough. Arnold explained that they were just transitioning from the winter over-seed to the summer Bermuda grass. To which my friend responded: “At Germantown Country Club in Germantown Tennessee we have Champion Bermuda grass on our greens and we have a great year round putting surface”. I was mortified, my friend was telling the great Arnold Palmer, that had forgotten more about grass than my friend would ever know, what kind of grass to put on his greens.

The amazing part of the story was Mr. Palmer’s response. Instead of telling my friend to pound sand, he said: “Really? I will have to look into that.” To this day, my friend thinks Arnold Palmer learned something from him. He made the guy feel special.

So often in social situations, we focus on ourselves. I have a tendency to half listen to people, thinking about what I am going to say versus listening and thinking of others. Arnold Palmer has a legacy of making people feel special, something that every supper club host/hostess can aspire to.

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It Is Better To Look Good

There is not much more rewarding than getting rave reviews to a meal that you serve to friends. One key is the fact that people “ If a meal looks good, chances are people will say it tastes good. A second key is layering in flavor. Really great dishes are quite often multi dimensional where the chef as added flavors in multiple forms. The third key is the power of suggestion. If an expert tells you that this is going to taste great, chances are you will think it tastes great.

Think of the importance how a plate is presented at a good restaurant. The good chef will go to great pains to make sure that the first impression that people SEE is good. There has been considerable research on the subject that all points to the importance of the fact that “people eat with their eyes”. The key point for the supper club is to go an extra step to make sure the food presentation is good. I am a huge fan of plating dishes versus serving things family style. In plating you get to add a few touches. Arrange the food well. Dress the plate with herbs. Pay attention to how you serve a sauce. It doesn’t take all that much effort but presentation is important.

Great chefs will layer in flavor. They season a dish multiple times. One great chef told me that at culinary school she was taught that if you don’t get at least one complaint a night about too much salt you are not adding enough. The proteins are quite often marinated or brined. At Kraft Food Ingredients we had a line of flavors called the “The flavors of cooking”. (Grill, Roast, Sauté etc.). We had marketing tag line that said: “Nothing influences the flavor of food more than how it is cooked. Think about it. A good chef will go to great lengths to sear, grill, sauté, roast, braise etc. What they are doing is layering in flavor.

If you want people to like a dish, have an expert, or someone people think knows something, whisper in their ears “Oh you are really going to love the rack of lamb”. In my last blog I talked about flavor panels. When working at Kraft I worked with one of the world’s greatest cheese experts. Larry Woodford developed the cheese sauce that was used in Kraft’s Mac and Cheese for over 30 years. I used to tell my kids that I worked with the guy that invented Kraft Macaroni and Cheese. To which they would say wow he must be rich. To which I would say no he is just fat. Kraft made all the money. However, Larry had forgotten more about cheese than I would ever know. One thing about Larry, whenever we would have a blind taste test, he was notorious for going around beforehand and whispering to folks “you are going to love sample B”. Invariably sample B would win out. We all figured if Larry who invented cheese likes something, it must be good..

And when all else fails remember the old quote from the great American philosopher Billy Crystal on Saturday Night Live: “It is better to look good than to feel good. You look marvelous darling”.