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Oops My Club Is Closing

Sometimes in life, and golf, the things that you think at first, are the worst things, turn out to be the best things.

This blog is not food or supper club related. It addresses my other passion, GOLF. This piece was originally written for a Golf Digest series called Golf Interrupted, but as that series has been terminated, I wanted to share the piece as a blog. Apologies to my Foodie audience. Hopefully you will get a chuckle out of it.

What a shocker it was to get a letter on January 4, 2019 that our club would close on February 28th. It quickly brought on something similar to the five stages of grief with dying:

Anger – Denial – Depression – Bargaining – Acceptance.

In Anger one yahoo threw a golf bag across the pro shop when he heard the news.  The Denial piece was led by a group of guys trying to buy the place. (Talk about what a big mistake that would have been.) Depression was driven by the reality of losing connection to friends that we have built over the 28 years at the club. Bargaining came pretty quick as various clubs in the area put together packages to woo the 350 refugees set adrift. Acceptance hit home with the realization that there are better options out there.

The situation was driven by the reality of the golf market today. Young professionals (they don’t want to be called millenials) are not joining country clubs the way previous generations had. The reality is that something like 200 country clubs across the country have been closing per year. Our club, affectionately known as the “Germ” was pretty typical. The owner died and his kids realized that the land was worth way more than a country club. And, by the way, the club had been losing money. In summary, the reality can be summed up in one word. Adios!

In hindsight, there were all kinds of signs that the end was near. The truth was that we were in denial. I use my squeaky windshield wiper analogy. I had a Mercedes for years that had a windshield wiper that squeaked. I brought it in at least a dozen times trying to get it fixed. It got the point that I would manually turn it on and off to minimize the squeak without thinking. I bought a new car and low and behold, the windshield wiper didn’t squeak. It never occurred to me how much the squeak bothered me, until I bought the new car.

It was the same way with the Germ. I loved the place, but there were lots of things that bothered me, and signs that it would be ending, that we chose to ignore. For one, you have to love a course whose key design feature was affectionately referred to as the freaking ditch. If it was in California it would sound a lot better because it would be called a Barranca. In Memphis it was just a freaking ditch. The fact that the ditch was getting bigger every year with erosion was a bit of a tell. Ten years ago the owners spent some money to fix the ditch on 4 holes and promised to fix a few others. It never happened.

The Freaking Ditch

It turns out that other clubs in the area were hurting as well. One club in particular stepped up with incentives to woo a block of 75 refugees. The infusion of newfound revenues allowed the new club to make what was a nice club into a really nice club. The key design feature at the new club is a beautiful 30-acre lake. Somehow we don’t miss the freaking ditch.

Ridgeway Country Club…Kind Of Nice!

Of course we miss a lot of old friends. Then again there is the old saying about the two rules you have to remember if you are thinking about changing jobs. Rule 1. There are a–holes everywhere. Rule 2. You are probably making good money for what you do, where you do it. Rule 2. A. When in doubt… remember Rule 1. There are lots of parallels with country clubs.  The really good news is that with 75 refugees at the new club we are constantly being surprised with old friends and former Germ employees showing up as part of the new club.

Don’t Miss the Freaking Ditch Flooding. Do Miss Ben & Hogan

In hindsight, what seemed to be a bad thing when the Germ closed turned into the best thing that ever happened. Who would of thunk! It was a shock. It still hurts to ride by the Germ. We worried about the Germ’s employees, but almost everyone has benefited from new opportunity. In a final point of irony, it turns out that the kids of the old owner, who had thought they were in for a big pay day, will have to wait a lot longer than they had thought to get their money. Lots of the old clubs members were mad at the kids for closing the club. In reality, they did us a favor. In all, it was 3 weeks from getting the closure letter to having a welcome reception at the new club. Sometimes in life, and golf, the things that you think at first, are the worst things, turn out to be the best things

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Notes Can Be A Gift

Preparing for a dinner party can be stressful. You have developed your menu, planned all the detail, but you are afraid that in the heat of the final moments, you will forget something. Writing yourself some notes is a great way to minimize the stress and reduce the chances of something being left behind.

They say that apples don’t fall far from trees. My daughter Jenn has seen her father prepare for many a dinner party and place a few strategic notes around the kitchen. Lo and behold, she did the same thing when she was preparing her first Thanksgiving dinner for her new in-laws. They say that imitation is the greatest form of flattery, not only did Jenn replicate her father’s traditional Thanksgiving menu, she used his note trick to manage the stress. In hindsight I wonder if she followed the family tradition of forgetting the cranberry sauce?

Jenn’s Uncle John has been an important player in her life. He was her first babysitter in California. He served Jenn her first beer before she was a year old (pictured below). Most importantly, Uncle John schooled a young Jenn from Memphis on the ways of the big city when she first moved to New York. I’ll never forget Uncle John treating a twenty something Jenn to a makeover at Saks Fifth Avenue in the city and proudly announcing to the make-up artist and crowd of 10 tourists, that changing baby Jennifer’s poopy diaper was his first and last. You can’t buy memories like that one.

(Uncle John Nangle serving baby Jennifer her first beer. If we only knew…)

Jenn’s husband Ethan also had his Uncle John who was very important to Ethan and his brother Bret growing up in New York. Their Uncle John who taught them many things, left his rent controlled apartment to Bret when he retired several years back. Uncle John passed away recently and Bret wrote a touching tribute to his Uncle John:

When Uncle John retired and moved upstate, I lived in his apartment. And as much as I tried to make it mine, I never could; his presence there was too strong. Especially in his tiny kitchen, where, inside the cabinets, he’d taped valuable cooking lessons and recipes. I could never bring myself to take them down until I moved out. He was such a great cook, and I was too intimidated to ever try to make anything that he had. But there were about a half dozen warnings up in those cabinets never to use dish soap on the coffee filter, and I consider having lived that commandment my greatest personal tribute to him.

(A few of Uncle John Cahill’s kitchen notes)

Notes, and Uncle Johns have been a very important gifts. to both the Kenny and Begun Family.

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